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New research suggests that play and down time may be as important to a child’s academic experience as reading, science and math, and that regular recess, fitness or nature time can influence behavior, concentration and even grades…

But you probably knew that, since you’re reading this.

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While Baby and Child Care has been revised six times to date, and with updates also from pediatrician and child psychiatrist Michael B. Rothenberg, it still is not wholly in line with the most popular parenting ideas and ideals of today. Still, the book carries with it many universal messages – human nature hasn’t really changed that much in 50 years, or even in 500…!

Have you read it? Was it useful? What do you think of it?

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A way of providing encouragement and helping children turn to internal sources of pride is to validate their efforts and take an invested interest in the process of their work. Some examples of praising the process versus outcomes include:

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It is important to point out that there is really no right or wrong way to praise a child for their work. However, being mindful of the language used when conveying your support will help children to focus on what choices they made to improve their experience. Additionally, it shows that you are more interested in their thought process and overall improvement rather than the end result. Emphasizing the importance of trying your best over outcome may also help support them in trying new things without fear of failure.

Parents are responsible for many things, providing their children with food, shelter, clothing and love. But parents are not responsible for their kids’ happiness. In my role as Director of Early Childhood Services, I often see parents who assume this role too. It is time to put that responsibility back where it belongs - with your children.

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• As parents we are biologically wired to protect our children.
• Our natural inclination is to “fix” things for them.
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• Our children’s unhappiness triggers feelings of our own unhappiness or other unresolved negative feelings.

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• Ordinary unhappiness is simply a fact of life.
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• The feeling of “unhappiness” belongs to the person who is experiencing it!

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We must dispel the following myths:

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• Children’s ordinary unhappiness leads to depressions or other emotional disorders.
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Once this is practiced, a new set of beliefs will emerge.

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Allowing our children to accept responsibility for their own happiness prepares them to handle their inevitable disappointments they will face and better understand that daily distresses are a manageable part of life.

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Children often ask compelling questions that reflect their natural interest and curiosity about the world around them. However, sometimes the answers they receive are not what they are looking for.

Do either one of the following scenarios sound familiar?

“But mommy, why do I have to go the bed now? Why can’t I stay up later?”

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As reasonable parents, we respond to these questions with thoughtful and rational explanations. In the first scenario, we might explain why the body needs ample sleep and the busy day that awaits our child. In the second scenario, we might respond factually with the actual amount of time already spent at Amy’s house and our need to be home to prepare dinner for the family.

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For example, in the first scenario you might say, “You’d like to be staying up later and I know how hard it is to get ready for bed when there’s another show you want to watch on TV.” In the second scenario you might say, “You’d like to continue playing with Amy and I know how hard it is to leave when you are having so much fun.”

While empathy alone might not stop your child’s protests, it often reduces the intensity while sending a clear message that you that you truly understand how s/he feels.

• Empathy helps children accept and process their own feelings.
• Empathy enables parents to affirm their child’s feelings, even when parents don’t share the same feelings.
• Empathy allows children to feel both heard and understood.

The next time your child asks a question, think before you respond. Is your child seeking new information or is s/he in need of an empathetic response?

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Focusing the child on the very behavior you want to modify while emphasizing desirable behavior is one way of helping a child change their behavior without feeling as though you are criticizing.

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While it is important to let the child know that they are okay and safe, language like this may actually convey to the child that their emotional experiences are invalid or wrong. For example, if a child falls and begins to cry, saying “You’re okay” may sound to the child like they should not feel bad or cry.
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Instead, it may be more beneficial to a child for an adult to label and validate their feelings as well as help them articulate what is they are feeling the way they are.  Some examples include:

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• “I know you are sad when Mommy leaves but I will come back at the end of the day.”

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Dr. Kessler recommends books by Judith Viorst, PhD who has written a number of wonderful books for children that talk about common experiences children deal with like having a bad day or feel neglected. One of Dr. Viorst’s most popular books Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day

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It is almost an impulse to praise children with phrases like “good girl/boy” when they have done something we want them to do. However, specific feedback about their behavior will often help to shape behavior better than vague comments. This also helps children learn that it is their behavior being judged, rather than the child themselves. Some examples of praising behavior may be: “Thank you for helping me by carrying that book.” and “I like it when you listened to me when I asked you to.” This acknowledges the child’s emerging independence to make behavioral choices and let’s them know they are making good choices.

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• Pull out the “classic” toys! Toys like blocks, dolls, and cars are toys children continue to enjoy as they get older. It’s a great investment because these toys offer children a blank slate to work with so that will not lose their allure too quickly!
• Offer some encouragement! If a child is “bored” playing, try giving them some ideas to work with like “I wonder who can build the tallest tower?” or “Let’s throw a birthday party for dolly” to get them started and let them take over from there!
• Change the setting! Something as simple as building a fort with sheets can add a new element to the play environment that could help engage the child in play!
• Recycle summer toys in the winter! Bringing outdoor playhouses inside or using sand toys to play in the snow are some ways to deal with the winter blues.

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What are some ideas you like to use at home to help manage your child’s boredom?

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