Playful Parenting Helps Nurture the “What If?”

By: Dr. Robert Needlman

I know this isn’t an original thought, but it recently occurred to me that children at play and scientists at work have a lot in common.  Both seem to start with the same question, What if?  What if I put this big block on top of this little one?  What if I’m the mommy and you’re the baby?  What if I drop a heavy ball and a light ball? Which one hits the ground first?

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Attack Force move What If is the starting point for almost any problem solving.

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  • The baby seems fussier than usual.  What if you try dancing to Roy Orbison while holding her over your shoulder?  How about Madonna?

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What If also drives art. In fact, very little that is new comes into existence without a What If first.

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  • Impressionism was largely an answer to the question, “What if you paint the feeling of things, instead of their surfaces?”
  • Mozart asked, “What if I play it softer; louder; faster; fancier; slower; in ¾ time?” And there you have it: theme and variations.

For What If to work its magic, the player-solver-artist needs a space, some objects, tools to work on them, and most important the assurance that not too much can go wrong.

  • It’s OK to pretend to be mommy (even if you’re a boy) or baby (even if you’re really much too old) or spaceman (even if you’re really afraid of heights) because you know that you yourself are alright as you are, really.
  • I don’t think you need to teach your child to play.  But you can set an example by taking a playful approach to life.

    • What if you turn left, instead of right the way you normally go? What if you take the contents of your junk drawer and make something? What if you put a carrot top in a bowl of grape juice? Will it sprout? Will you get a blue carrot?

    Being a playful parent yourself may help your child feel comfortable wondering What If and feel secure exploring their growing curiosities.

    2 Responses to “Playful Parenting Helps Nurture the “What If?””

    1. Bethe Says:

      Great post. “What if,” have to be one of the most important phrases ever spoken, and a lesson that MUST be learned and valued. Cheers- Bethe @balmeras

    2. Savannah Says:

      I was told there was an article about kids who line stuff up and how to encourage/help them learn from it. Can anyone help me?

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